Often in my life, I find myself utterely focused on one thing, something I want. Some people might call it tunnel vision, others passion; but the outcome is always the same. I get it or I don’t. Now I’m not spoiled and I think I deal with rejection and failure as good as the next person, but I try to remind myself of the saying “Life has a funny way of working out” when I find myself in the position of losing what I’ve focused on.
2009 has been a lesson in that if nothing else. I lost out on a job that I intensely focused on for the better part of 6 months. I lost a relationship before it really even started partially because of my intense focus. 2009 started out as the year of misaimed focus. Now I don’t plan on changing anytime soon. I enjoy the feeling of the laser lock I get when I know I want something. That drive is a part of me and it would be foolish to do anything but embrace it. But here’s the good part, I’ve learned that just because I focus on something, doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the best and in my opinion sometimes it’s the thing that’s right next to the focussed on item that is the best thing for me. But if you sit and try to stay focused on that opportunity that has passed you’ll miss that next one.
Things happen, both of our doing or the Gods. But I think that if you can roll with the punches, you may find what lies next will be just as good if not better. I rolled the best I could with what happened over the first quarter of 2009 and I now find myself leaping out of bed everyday to a job that wasn’t even a consideration Jan 1st, but is now extremely clear just how a good match it is for me and my abilities. I told a person what I did tonight and his response was “damn that’s cool” and my response was ” it really is”. So whether you believe in a higher power or simply what you can see and touch, in my opinion, things generally happen for a reason and as long as your ready for it, it may surprise you. This too will pass A! Peace
